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Just got turned down by the girl I absolutely adore because I'm still a guy and she's a lesbian. I was really hoping to death she'd be able to look past that, because she knows I identify as female and that I'm transitioning, but she told me she's "not attracted to guys".Any tips for dealing with dysphoria? Kind of feeling like a stupid pile of shit for thinking anybody could think of me as a girl. I'm so fucking pathetic >.<
Pic related, me but super old.
When you say dysphoria, are you talking about your gender dysphoria or are you talking about your current unhappy mood?
How far along are you with transition?
You are not a stupid pile of shit because someone else couldn't look past their own biases and recognize you for who you are. She is the stupid pile of shit for rejecting you in a way that undermines your identity.
Hang out with people that accept you as a girl. Go do something that you enjoy. Don't blame yourself for other people's short-sightedness.
So you like women, under the condition that you have a fake vagina made in place of your penis?
Yo I love honey but only if I eat it straight from the hive wearing a bearsuit. Otherwise gack.
She was a superficial bitch. It's so common these days, you gotta deal with it.
Looking good there, too bad you don't like men :P
>>243I meant the gender dysphoria. Nothing makes me cry these days except that :/I'm pre-everything at the moment, just a very femme boy who crossdresses occasionally. And I would blame her for making me feel awful, but it was kind of my fault. She had previously told me she was bi, bur preferred girls, but has recently become full lesbian and I was too caught up in not looking like a complete idiot in front of her that I didn't realise ;D>>249Not sure if abusing? Oh well.>>253I like everyone. I'm pansexual :3
it's too bad people adhere so strongly to certain groups (gay, bi, lesbian), if people could look past gender and see the person the world would be a much better place.
Don't let it get you down. Your on a path now. At any moment you could find someone to share it with you, even if only for a a short time. Don't fault her for it either. She may change her mind about you, or you both might find separate happiness.
Okay, i have to take a difference stance to this whole situation. Just because you identify yourself as a woman or even if you are cisgendered woman, there is no condition why a lesbian should like you. She has her own preferences on who she like and who she doesn't want to date.
Think of it in this way, you are just a cis-heteronormative dude and you approach this pretty girl in a bar and she just says ''i ain't into you. ''(or something like you are not my type) how would you deal with it? cry about it? insult the girl? bring your homies on her?
Rejection can happen anytime when you try approaching or proposing someone for various reasons. being trans, lesbian or straight has nothing to do with it. She could have easily rejected you on any other basis like not petit enough or feminine enough or even you-are-not-my-type.
This is my personal experience after fulltime. I have been approached by men at various social situation. And what i learned was most men in general cannot handle rejection. Some whine a lot , some insult me directly and stalk me with their friends and harrassed me. I wish the world would be a far better place when people who get rejected just accept it like plague, death and taxes and move on with their lives.
Some lesbians want ciswomen. It's not a judgement on them or you. Don't try and tell someone else what their sexuality is though.
There's nothing wrong with her not wanting to date or get involved with a trans person. That said, it also means that you shouldn't be too worried about her opinion either. She's just not for you if she can't accept who you are and be okay with that in a relationship. That doesn't mean there's anything wrong with her, you two just aren't compatible.
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To convey that by saying "I'm not attracted to guys" though. Fucking disgusting.
